How To Move Forward After Loss – The Tasks of Grief

Moving beyond the stages of grief

As a culture, we seem to be very familiar with the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. What we are less familiar with is the tasks of grief, or how to process our grief and move forward after a loss.

Grief is an active process – it requires us to work in order to move forward

We hear that “time heals” and “you need to grieve” but no one tells how to go about grieving except to cry. How do you begin to really move on? Grief requires that we actively engage with our pain, which is why a lot of people get stuck in their grief and find it difficult to truly move forward. In this week’s video, we talk about the tasks of grief which is the work of J. William Worden, PhD, ABPP, author of Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner, now in its fourth edition.

Caregivers may find it most difficult to move forward after loss

In my professional experience, those who have been caregivers for a family member find it most difficult to “reinvest in the new reality” which is one of the tasks of grief. So much of a person’s life is put on hold when caring for someone who has a chronic illness that moving forward is especially difficult because it can be difficult to remember what you used to spend your time doing before your ill loved one became the center of your life.

The tasks of grief help you begin to truly move forward

By participating in the active process of grieving you will be able to move on and begin your life again, even if the loss is unwelcome.

Grief is more than just death

Don’t forget that we grieve many losses, not just death! The loss of a marriage through divorce, the breakup of a relationship, a friend moving away, a child growing up and beginning their life, the loss of a job, retirement, all of these things can be accompanied by a natural feeling of grief.

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